In efforts to be comfortable, to get a long, to be peacemakers, and to be team players we all struggle to balance our own individuality. We do not want to become contrarians, contentious naysayers, dysfunctional and toxic to the marriage, family, team functionality and productivity, but in doing so we risk becoming yes-men, stooges, toadies, and ennabling bootlickers, losing ourselves in the personality, wants, and desires of others. Neither option seems to bring much peace of mind. Oh, the quandries and quagmires of life such as they are, puzzle and mystify us to doubt and despair, and defeatist plateaus, but to not know everything or every mystery of life and our relationships to others and our worlds should not cloud are faith and hope and patience, virtues needed to abide the storm and maintain the ascent.