Love is orderly. Love needs a strong structure to survive for the long run or for that matter to survive at all. However, love prospers in an environment where the freedom of thought, the freedom to search for truth and happiness exists, or in other words personal growth is allowed to take place. Love is not a fleeting fancy or a selfish satisfaction like lust or infatuation. Love is unselfish and concerns itself with self-control but utmost its concerned about the spiritual well-being and spiritual growth of others.
Love is not about caving in to a desire or satisfying a pleasure. Love is not an addiction. Love is not sex and sex is not love. This counterfeit definition and fugacious practice only leads to dysfunction, insecurity, broken hearts, and broken families and unhappiness. Love has a natural order it follows and boundaries it respects. Love itself is the composite of all other virtues and does not trample lesser virtues or eternal order or individual freedom to exists. You cannot trample honesty and loyalty and or the eternal union of the family structure and call that emotion true love. Love is an interconnected private and public commodity and individually we cannot see all the consequences, the ripple effect, of ignoring its rules. However, ignoring it rules is something that we can all witness socially as we see public contention, public confusion and a lack of public order on the rise and we all can say something is amiss in our society. The lack of love in a society, nevertheless, is not something that money or clever social engineering can fix.
Love cannot be created by man-made wealth or rules nor can the lack of love be remedied by governments or social programs or be redefined by special interest groups or the lawyers. Love is literally not of this world, but is of the eternities.